Oh, how many times have I said something I wish I hadn't in the moment of fury! When all is said and done, the hurt feelings and fighting were not worth it. Of course, it takes two to tango, and those intertwined with the fervor of the dance always seem to have more fuel for the fire. Depending on those involved, the love, whether it’s with friend or partner, should (in theory) make it quicker to reconcile. Stubbornness will get you nowhere.
So where are we, and how can we go back and do over/recreate the scenario without having regrets? Sometimes, there is no wriggle room with all the hindsight in the world. If only I held my tongue. If only he wasn't so selfish. If only, if only, if only.
Too late.
"If only I” sentiments make good for the next situation, but I stress, as you already know, that such statements are only good after the fact. In such an extraordinary technological world, one would think that we should have already created a time machine that would give us the ability to go back to said moment and easily erase what should never have been said in the first place.
Remain steadfast. Practice self-control when it seems the hardest. Persevere. Strength and willpower will help you make the right choices that will lead to better outcomes. Sure, it's hard sometimes, but knowing that holding your tongue or curtailing your actions can create a sounder, more sane environment is what might make the difference in those tightly wound, highly emotional situations.
The choice is yours. Make it a good one.
Misti is currently putting the pieces of the puzzle of life together. You can reach her at citygirlblue@gmail.com.